Kayla Doris

Change your heart, not your head

Kayla Doris
Change your heart, not your head

If you’ve been following Reset from the very beginning, you’ll know that it was originally intended to offer trips for stress, anxiety, creativity and other problems we may currently be tackling. When I pitched it to a panel to win funding, I actually pitched it as a therapeutic travel agency called Emotional Baggage, and while I secretly still love the name, I’m glad that I took the time out to rethink the idea and change what I didn’t like about it.

What I didn’t like about it, turned out to be the main idea. I wanted a transformative travel brand that changed people’s mindsets, but somehow offering trips for stress and creativity just didn’t seem...enough. It didn’t seem like a permanent change. How could I try and sell people a ‘life-changing’ trip, knowing that they would return to their usual routines and get stressed or unhappy all over again? I didn’t just want to change people’s emotions. I wanted to completely change their usual way of thinking and perspective on the world. So I redid the website and this year was my year to figure out exactly how I was going to do that.

Last night I saw Green Book at the cinema, and for me, the film was a perfect summary of what I mean when I say a ‘transformative trip.’ Based on a true story, the film follows a racist Italian-American and a black musicians journey together through the Deep South of America in the 1960s, where the Italian-American witnesses what it’s like to be black in America. The film is amazing and surprisingly hilarious, and I think it’s safe to say the Italian-American goes back with a different perspective as well as a change of heart. Which made me realise after watching that what I’m trying to change is hearts, not heads.

Our minds are easy to change; I have about 10 different moods an hour and a constant back and forth on decisions, thoughts and ideas all the time. But to change our beliefs and our life-long-held perceptions is a different thing entirely. More so because often we’re not even aware of those perceptions or don’t like to admit them to ourselves. So now I’ll just go and figure out how I’m going to tackle that and I recommend you to go and watch Green Book. ASAP.

3 things I learnt from Green Book:

  • Get to see how other people have to live. Don’t just stick to people who are like you when you travel, but really try and understand the lives of those who are completely different to you.

  • Learn about the things we are prejudiced against. The majority of us have some sort of prejudice, whether we’re aware of it or not, but really prejudice just comes through not understanding. Reading about immigrants in the news for instance, gives you a different perception of them compared if you were to go and witness their plights and listen to their stories.

  • You have to see things that make you uncomfortable. A really transformative trip is never going to be easy. You need to put yourself out of your comfort zone in order to grow.

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